Whether or not you would term your relationship as happy, distressed, or just too much work, these suggestions from professionals counselors can help.
Pay closer attention to a loved one to genuinely understand his or her desires. Act on that knowledge. Happy couples are active participants in their quest for lasting love.
Realize that love will survive a disagreement and be as sweet as before. Don't withdraw, but let your love override the negative feelings of the moment. We need our partner to be a safe haven and also a true listening ear to our heartfelt concerns.
Don't try to make the relationship a cure-all. It can't cure old wound and is not a solution to personal problems. We must take responsibility for feelings of self-worth and self-love.
Accept your partner. Don't try to remake someone. Happy couples understand that love means accepting flaws and all. Each of us wants to be accepted for what we are.
Say what you want. Your partner is not a mind reader. When your partner responds to that request that is a genuine indication of love.
Remember that good relationships are always changing. Believe that yours is strong enough, and the trust great enough, to allow each other room to grow.
Be faithful. Infidelity poisons love and can permanently damage the bond between you. Dishonesty and neglect will kill love. Love needs honest, sincere attention.
Don't blame. And don't make your partner responsible for your own happiness. It's easier to blame your partner for your distress that it is to seek out the cause and eliminate it.
Be unselfish. Giving shows love—and it's contagious. It encourages reciprocity. No one, however, should give unendingly to a person who takes advantage of loving intentions and gives nothing in return.
Love forgives. Either we forgive, or we slowly accumulate resentment. Don't shelve the hurt or explain it away. Forgiving releases anger and hurt. In relationships there is no simple cause and effect, no straight lines, only circles that partners create together.